Comments on: I Hate Cheyenne – Part 8. Final. http://www.ihatethis.org/2007/08/12/i-hate-cheyenne-part-8-final/ Tell the whole world about what you hate most! Hate you, hate me, hate them all! Wed, 08 Apr 2009 02:43:20 +0300 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: ilovecake http://www.ihatethis.org/2007/08/12/i-hate-cheyenne-part-8-final/comment-page-1/#comment-6720 ilovecake Wed, 02 Jul 2008 19:17:13 +0000 http://www.ihatethis.org/2007/08/12/i-hate-cheyenne-part-8-final/#comment-6720 this was really good to read and im sorry for you this was really good to read and im sorry for you

]]> By: food4thought http://www.ihatethis.org/2007/08/12/i-hate-cheyenne-part-8-final/comment-page-1/#comment-5263 food4thought Fri, 02 May 2008 19:22:43 +0000 http://www.ihatethis.org/2007/08/12/i-hate-cheyenne-part-8-final/#comment-5263 Take solace in the fact that she will most likely end up as an aids statistic. If she continues the way you described, her life will inevitably suck. Take solace in the fact that she will most likely end up as an aids statistic. If she continues the way you described, her life will inevitably suck.

]]> By: latessa124 http://www.ihatethis.org/2007/08/12/i-hate-cheyenne-part-8-final/comment-page-1/#comment-3356 latessa124 Fri, 18 Jan 2008 18:14:02 +0000 http://www.ihatethis.org/2007/08/12/i-hate-cheyenne-part-8-final/#comment-3356 Cheynne was abusive. She was in your head...which is where controlling abusers want to be. MY estranged husband began that way. It ended recently after three children, sixteen years of marriage, his beating me and finally saying he dreamed he'd killed me. That day was the last day...his dream...was not going to come true. You are smart. You are out. Please heal and take that wonderful heart to another more deserving person. They tell me they are out there....I hope you find her Cheynne was abusive. She was in your head…which is where controlling abusers want to be.
MY estranged husband began that way. It ended recently after three children, sixteen years of marriage, his beating me and finally saying he dreamed he’d killed me. That day was the last day…his dream…was not going to come true.
You are smart. You are out. Please heal and take that wonderful heart to another more deserving person. They tell me they are out there….I hope you find her

]]> By: path http://www.ihatethis.org/2007/08/12/i-hate-cheyenne-part-8-final/comment-page-1/#comment-3153 path Mon, 24 Dec 2007 04:24:59 +0000 http://www.ihatethis.org/2007/08/12/i-hate-cheyenne-part-8-final/#comment-3153 Hello feetontheair, You have completely misread my story. Allow me to clarify: 1) The biggest confusion seems to be how you have chosen to interpret this blog. This is a place of personal expression. It is not divorce court. It is not a pissing contest to see who has the worst break up story. The story I told is a reflection of the way I felt when I wrote it. Whether or not my feelings are justified is a moot point. Obviously no one wants to go around with hate in their heart and this blog is one way to let go of those feelings. Since you are speculating about my dating history, I was once in a relationship where the girl cheated on me (in your sense of the term). Then, when I broke up with her she spent months stalking and harassing me to the point where I had to have her arrested and taken away in handcuffs. If I wanted to win a pissing contest, I would have told that story. But I never hated that girl the way I hated Cheyenne. Hate is, by definition, irrational, but I think it has to do with Cheyenne’s hypocrisy. The girl who was stalking me was simply troubled and eventually apologized. 2) Cheyenne DID cheat on me. Only in the most purely juridical sense was this not cheating. If you’re sleeping in the same bed every night and having sex, that’s a sexual relationship. And it was still assumed to be a monogamous by all parties. Furthermore, she also cheated on Marl, which WAS cheating in the juridical sense. 3) You have misread me on feminism. I did use the term “feminist bullshit” but this was not meant to imply that all feminism is bullshit. Any school of thought can be abused. I think feminism is fighting human rights abuses in the Middle East, infanticide in China, and wage discrimination in America. Using it to justify selfish behavior trivializes that struggle. 4) Believe it or not, I have never been accused of being sexist. Granted, I did use the word “slut.” But if there is any situation when the word “slut” is appropriate, it is probably on a forum dedicated to hate when describing a woman who could have easily given me AIDS through her selfishness and deceit. 5) You also imply that I have no right to complain because other people also approach break-ups in selfish and immature ways rather than communicating like adults “(welcome to the world of dating, buddy.)” This argument is juvenile on three counts: A) when you live together and are shopping for wedding rings you are no longer in “the world of dating.” This constitutes a serious relationship, requiring serious communication. B) You are arguing that something can be justified solely by the number of people doing it. This is probably the greatest mistake throughout history. By that logic, rape, genocide, etc. can all be justified. C) This is a forum for describing everyday things that people hate. Are you going to go through every single post, arguing that people have no right to hate something because it happens everyday? 6) Yes, going through an ex’s e-mail account is “creepy.” But your judgment of me ignored the ten odd pages of context. It was literally a matter of life and death. After reading it, I went to the AIDS clinic and got tested. Anytime you are in a relationship where you are having unprotected sex and someone cheats on you—finding out is your business. Furthermore, if you were in my position you would have done the exact same thing. You would be stupid not to. Anyway, Homeland Security reads your e-mail everyday for far less important reasons. 7) You seem to frame your unsolicited advice by implying you are some sort of veteran dater: describing two years as a short relationship, suggesting that I have never had a relationship before, etc. Finally, you close your missive with an incredibly condescending line about “learning lessons.” Now allow me to return the favor by speculating about you. I think that you have no ideals left. I think that you have made so many mistakes and been abused so many times that cognitive dissonance has forced you to be proud of it. You see “the world of dating” as a Hobbesian nightmare where selfishness is expected and actual honor and love are illusory. The only way to win this game is to surround yourself with a anesthetic wall of cynicism. I think that is the “lesson” you have learned. Congratulations. Hello feetontheair,

You have completely misread my story. Allow me to clarify:

1) The biggest confusion seems to be how you have chosen to interpret this blog. This is a place of personal expression. It is not divorce court. It is not a pissing contest to see who has the worst break up story. The story I told is a reflection of the way I felt when I wrote it. Whether or not my feelings are justified is a moot point. Obviously no one wants to go around with hate in their heart and this blog is one way to let go of those feelings.

Since you are speculating about my dating history, I was once in a relationship where the girl cheated on me (in your sense of the term). Then, when I broke up with her she spent months stalking and harassing me to the point where I had to have her arrested and taken away in handcuffs. If I wanted to win a pissing contest, I would have told that story. But I never hated that girl the way I hated Cheyenne. Hate is, by definition, irrational, but I think it has to do with Cheyenne’s hypocrisy. The girl who was stalking me was simply troubled and eventually apologized.

2) Cheyenne DID cheat on me. Only in the most purely juridical sense was this not cheating. If you’re sleeping in the same bed every night and having sex, that’s a sexual relationship. And it was still assumed to be a monogamous by all parties. Furthermore, she also cheated on Marl, which WAS cheating in the juridical sense.

3) You have misread me on feminism. I did use the term “feminist bullshit” but this was not meant to imply that all feminism is bullshit. Any school of thought can be abused. I think feminism is fighting human rights abuses in the Middle East, infanticide in China, and wage discrimination in America. Using it to justify selfish behavior trivializes that struggle.

4) Believe it or not, I have never been accused of being sexist. Granted, I did use the word “slut.” But if there is any situation when the word “slut” is appropriate, it is probably on a forum dedicated to hate when describing a woman who could have easily given me AIDS through her selfishness and deceit.

5) You also imply that I have no right to complain because other people also approach break-ups in selfish and immature ways rather than communicating like adults “(welcome to the world of dating, buddy.)” This argument is juvenile on three counts: A) when you live together and are shopping for wedding rings you are no longer in “the world of dating.” This constitutes a serious relationship, requiring serious communication. B) You are arguing that something can be justified solely by the number of people doing it. This is probably the greatest mistake throughout history. By that logic, rape, genocide, etc. can all be justified. C) This is a forum for describing everyday things that people hate. Are you going to go through every single post, arguing that people have no right to hate something because it happens everyday?

6) Yes, going through an ex’s e-mail account is “creepy.” But your judgment of me ignored the ten odd pages of context. It was literally a matter of life and death. After reading it, I went to the AIDS clinic and got tested. Anytime you are in a relationship where you are having unprotected sex and someone cheats on you—finding out is your business. Furthermore, if you were in my position you would have done the exact same thing. You would be stupid not to. Anyway, Homeland Security reads your e-mail everyday for far less important reasons.

7) You seem to frame your unsolicited advice by implying you are some sort of veteran dater: describing two years as a short relationship, suggesting that I have never had a relationship before, etc. Finally, you close your missive with an incredibly condescending line about “learning lessons.”

Now allow me to return the favor by speculating about you. I think that you have no ideals left. I think that you have made so many mistakes and been abused so many times that cognitive dissonance has forced you to be proud of it. You see “the world of dating” as a Hobbesian nightmare where selfishness is expected and actual honor and love are illusory. The only way to win this game is to surround yourself with a anesthetic wall of cynicism. I think that is the “lesson” you have learned. Congratulations.

]]> By: feetontheair http://www.ihatethis.org/2007/08/12/i-hate-cheyenne-part-8-final/comment-page-1/#comment-3104 feetontheair Wed, 19 Dec 2007 18:17:00 +0000 http://www.ihatethis.org/2007/08/12/i-hate-cheyenne-part-8-final/#comment-3104 if this is the worst relationship/breakup you ever go through, you're lucky. seriously. get over it. i was expecting to find some kind of story where she cheated on you, or was abusive, or stalked you; instead, your complaints about a (not particularly long!) relationship are that she a) had sex with you too soon; b) was a feminist (you repeatedly refer to her views as "bullshit" and to her as a "slut," which makes me think that if she thought you were sexist, she was probably on to something); c) carefully timed breaking up with you (welcome to the world of dating, buddy. breakups are usually thought-out, discussed with friends, and timed); d) slept with somebody else after you had broken up; and e) didn't tell you about her new relationship, but did tell her friends. whoop-de-do. what a monster. seriously, was cheyenne your first girlfriend? had you never been in a relationship before? because this is all really, really run-of-the-mill stuff. you said you're in therapy? find a new therapist, because this one isn't helping you. and going through an ex's e-mail account? that is creepy, and uncalled for, and whether or not what you found made you "sick" it was NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS! it would be nice if you had learned some lessons from this breakup, but it looks like you haven't--so be prepared for a repeat experience. if this is the worst relationship/breakup you ever go through, you’re lucky. seriously. get over it. i was expecting to find some kind of story where she cheated on you, or was abusive, or stalked you; instead, your complaints about a (not particularly long!) relationship are that she a) had sex with you too soon; b) was a feminist (you repeatedly refer to her views as “bullshit” and to her as a “slut,” which makes me think that if she thought you were sexist, she was probably on to something); c) carefully timed breaking up with you (welcome to the world of dating, buddy. breakups are usually thought-out, discussed with friends, and timed); d) slept with somebody else after you had broken up; and e) didn’t tell you about her new relationship, but did tell her friends. whoop-de-do. what a monster. seriously, was cheyenne your first girlfriend? had you never been in a relationship before? because this is all really, really run-of-the-mill stuff. you said you’re in therapy? find a new therapist, because this one isn’t helping you. and going through an ex’s e-mail account? that is creepy, and uncalled for, and whether or not what you found made you “sick” it was NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS! it would be nice if you had learned some lessons from this breakup, but it looks like you haven’t–so be prepared for a repeat experience.

]]> By: biggiebaby http://www.ihatethis.org/2007/08/12/i-hate-cheyenne-part-8-final/comment-page-1/#comment-3064 biggiebaby Mon, 10 Dec 2007 19:59:42 +0000 http://www.ihatethis.org/2007/08/12/i-hate-cheyenne-part-8-final/#comment-3064 Been there man. a very thin line between love and hate. Story: was engaged to a woman with law degree, I was a cook making 950 an hr. we were living together. I grew up very poor and learned early that I must work hard for anything. Her: affluent. private schools, riding lessons etc. we were living together. I was working two jobs, very long and hard hours. she decided to quit work "to find herself". she told me once that she was embarassed to tell her legal collegues what i did for a living. can you belive that? she did so many rotten things to me. cheated, stole money from my acct. i wasnt perfect, but it is amazing what one human being, that says they love you, can do to another. I truly hope that love really exsists out there. love where you can be vulnerable and trust entirely. that sanctuary that we all need. but, im starting to think that its just something that debeers and hallmark sell us. Been there man. a very thin line between love and hate.
Story: was engaged to a woman with law degree, I was a cook making 950 an hr. we were living together. I grew up very poor and learned early that I must work hard for anything. Her: affluent. private schools, riding lessons etc.
we were living together. I was working two jobs, very long and hard hours. she decided to quit work “to find herself”.
she told me once that she was embarassed to tell her legal collegues what i did for a living. can you belive that? she did so many rotten things to me. cheated, stole money from my acct. i wasnt perfect, but it is amazing what one human being, that says they love you, can do to another. I truly hope that love really exsists out there. love where you can be vulnerable and trust entirely. that sanctuary that we all need. but, im starting to think that its just something that debeers and hallmark sell us.

]]> By: ihateall http://www.ihatethis.org/2007/08/12/i-hate-cheyenne-part-8-final/comment-page-1/#comment-2983 ihateall Sat, 08 Sep 2007 10:50:53 +0000 http://www.ihatethis.org/2007/08/12/i-hate-cheyenne-part-8-final/#comment-2983 nah I'm kidding you should slash her tires nah I’m kidding you should slash her tires

]]> By: ihateall http://www.ihatethis.org/2007/08/12/i-hate-cheyenne-part-8-final/comment-page-1/#comment-2981 ihateall Fri, 07 Sep 2007 12:11:42 +0000 http://www.ihatethis.org/2007/08/12/i-hate-cheyenne-part-8-final/#comment-2981 I hate you and the horse you rode in on I hate you and the horse you rode in on

]]> By: Miss Marie http://www.ihatethis.org/2007/08/12/i-hate-cheyenne-part-8-final/comment-page-1/#comment-2966 Miss Marie Mon, 13 Aug 2007 19:15:43 +0000 http://www.ihatethis.org/2007/08/12/i-hate-cheyenne-part-8-final/#comment-2966 Very interesting! You kept my interest for all 8 parts!! Very interesting! You kept my interest for all 8 parts!!

]]> By: Miss Marie http://www.ihatethis.org/2007/08/12/i-hate-cheyenne-part-8-final/comment-page-1/#comment-2965 Miss Marie Mon, 13 Aug 2007 19:11:12 +0000 http://www.ihatethis.org/2007/08/12/i-hate-cheyenne-part-8-final/#comment-2965 Very interesting story!! You kept me hooked! Very interesting story!! You kept me hooked!

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